Tips on Staying Focused to Reach Goals

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These past few weeks I’ve been involved in an accelerated business course to learn how to brand Deliciously Inspired.  I have an incredible young woman as a coach and the other women in the group are – well, you know one of my favorite words is – INSPIRING!  I’ve been learning so many new and exciting things that I’ve felt like I’m listening to people talk a foreign language at times.  But I think that’s true anytime we venture out of our comfort zone and stretch ourselves and reach for our heart-felt goals.  At 57 years old, I can look back and say that goals come in all areas, shapes and sizes.  I remember when I was in my 30’s I thought most everyone had some special skill which usually came from obtaining a college degree.  Since I don’t have a college degree, I felt  that I knew a little about a lot of things but wasn’t an “expert” in anything.  I smile to myself a little now because someone will always know more than someone else and realize my thinking was skewed  to believe one arrived at being an “expert” and quit learning.  Now I see that I was accomplishing goals by going to the library and checking out a book to learn a baking technique, completing a home renovation, studying my bible, etc – those goals have all been useful and put to good use.  In fact, this website couldn’t exist without all those small, medium and large size goals that were accomplished over the years.

So today I want to talk about goals.   Goals help us know ourselves better – they can teach us what is important to us – they help us find common ground with others and also help us find our unique voice.  Goals are powerful motivators – did you know you increase your success of accomplishing a goal if you write it down, keep it in front of you and have a level of accountability?  Goals empower us because our confidence is built, as the bible says, strength upon strength.  One goal met makes us stronger for the next goal we face.  

But here is the thing about goals – it is oh, so easy to NOT use our time wisely and become distracted – we become dreamers but not deliverers.   I am always on the search for wisdom from others that can help my growth in this area.  Little did I know that my most recent finding would  be from someone I was introduced to in my business course.   Her name is Kim Wilson and she blogs over at  The Fit Blue Line.   She is married to a police officer; an advocate for the officers and their family’s building healthy lifestyles and someday her desire is to create a non-profit  for fallen and injured officer and their families.  We have several core values in common and so I reached out to her and asked permission to share her thoughts on the subject with you all and she graciously agreed.

Words from Kim on How to Stay Insanely Focused?

How many important things did you get done last week? I mean the things that actually got you closer to your biggest goals and dreams. Can you write down a list of what you accomplished and how it is moving you forward to your ultimate goal?

Why can’t we get focused these days? Seems like we are all plugged into some sort of technology device anymore. We struggle to have a conversation with people standing in front of us without multitasking with our phones.

And then answers the Big Question – How can we get focused?  

  1.  Figure out what actually matters. Get real with yourself about what it is you REALLY do that moves you forward towards your goals.
  2. Pick only 2-3 top task for each day. There are just certain things that have to happen, no matter what, to move you forward. Figure them out and accomplish them daily. If you do this, then your day was a success!
  3. Get the important tasks done first & early! If you get up and do the most important 2-3 tasks first, before you truly start your day, then you are starting your day as a success. Once you get up and start the motions of your day, life will happen. You will have distractions.
  4. Do not connect to anything until you have accomplished your top tasks! Do not convince yourself you need to scroll Facebook, Twitter, IG or whatever social media you are on. Leave your internet notifications off (or chat groups, etc) and put your phone on airplane mode. Once you crush it, then turn it all back on and reward yourself, if you so desire.
  5. Don’t multitask. We all say we can do it. But we can’t. It’s not more efficient … it’s just not people! Do one task at a time. Do it with precision and with 100% of your focus on it and only it.

For Tips 6-10 – click on over and finish reading on Kim’s blog and when you are done, do me a favor – leave her a comment telling her you found her at Deliciously Inspired and what tip  you appreciated the most on how to stay focused toward your goals.  

One of my favorite ways to stay focused is to answer Kim’s question 1 – then write down on a piece of paper my top 4 – dedicate 15 minutes of time and see how far I can get.  Please comment below if you have a favorite way you stay focused.

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What Kind of Mom Will Your Kids Remember?

This was written in 1998 and my now adult children were 14 and 10.  I was teaching a mentoring class called TwiG (Teach What Is Good) at Grace Community Church in Tempe, AZ which was created to bring the older woman (which I am now one of) and the younger woman together (Titus 2:3-5).   I recently shared this at a local MOPs (Mothers of Preschooler) group in April.  It was interesting to read my words 16 years ago. 

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 I always wanted to be a mom.  And after six years of marriage, both Jeff and I were in agreement it was time to start our family.  I’ll never forget the day I found out Tamara was on her way.  Oh- I wanted to shout the news out.  Calling the newspaper was not out of the question – this had to qualify as front-page news.  From that day on – the life that I shared with my husband was no longer my own.  My thoughts and decisions were now influenced by the startling revelation that someone would call me “mommy.”  Tamara’s outgoing nature brought joy into our quiet world.  Three years later a little boy who most always has a smile on his face and a hug ready joined our family.  Two children with individual needs both requiring a solid foundation of love to grow in.  I’m learning that there are extreme joys that cause the heart to soar in the land of motherhood.  And along with those highs also come gut wrenching, energy-sucking lows.  My children are God’s greatest tools for my growth – not just as a mother but in discovering my own strengths and weaknesses.  It is in the care of others that we face some of life’s greatest decisions – to pull close with our arms wrapped tightly around or to let go and let them fly, to laugh or to cry over a situation, to encourage in an area that is best for my child and not myself, and to allow them the freedom to fail to name a few.

What kind of mom will my kids remember?  Who knows?  I probably won’t know that answer until I sit around as a grandmother and listen as they tell their children about the times when they were growing up.  But I have some ideas of what kind of heritage I’d like to give them.  And I believe with God’s help, that we are what we practice to be.

Memories:  I want my kids to remember their mom laughing.  She didn’t take everything in life so serious.  She wasn’t so much of an adult that she forgot what it felt like to be a kid.  And, just maybe I might have a small degree of influence in teaching them what fun was all about. (Funny Slippers, birthday theme parties.)

Availability– I want my kids to remember that I was there to listen.  I was willing to put aside what I am doing when they needed to discuss something.  When they walked through the door from school, it was their time to tell me about their day.  They didn’t find me on the telephone or in the middle of a project.  For it is in the quiet moments of listening that our children can hug our hearts.  I remember  Evan curled in my lap, his little fingers tracing the outline of my face, saying, “Mommy when I draw your face with my fingers it is a heart.”

Home – I want my kids to remember that the house we lived in was a home.  It provided a place of rest from the outside world.  Not a fantasy land, but a place where they knew they were loved.

Boundaries – I want my kids to remember that I loved them enough to say “no,” to set limits on their actions and that there are consequences for their actions.  To learn that love is not all about sweetness that lets you do whatever you want.  As their mother, I was willing to do what was necessary for their best interest no matter how hard it was on me.  Hebrews 12:11  “No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful.  Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.”

Marriage:  I want my kids to remember that I loved their dad and our marriage was very important to me.  And that when times were tough, I didn’t give up.   They saw their dad and I have differences of opinion and somehow we still loved one another.  That anything worth having is worth working for.

Value:  I want my kids to remember that I valued myself from God’s perspective.  I was able to model taking care of myself physically, emotionally, and spiritually so I could take care of them. 

Cheerleader:  I want my kids to remember that more times than not I encouraged them in their endeavors.  That they had permission to try something and it was okay to fail.  My ears and time were open to provide opportunities in areas that interested them and help them in areas that didn’t come easily.  Our motto:  A family is a team and that a team works together and pulls for each other.

Guidance:  I want my kids to remember that God guided their mom.  It was her time spent with Him that strengthened and sometimes gave her a shoulder to cry on and an ear to rejoice to.   For she was just an ordinary woman and she needed help in learning to be the mother God had called her to be.  Is. 40:11 “He tends his flock like a shepherd:  He gathers the lambs in his arms and carries them close to his heart, he gently leads those that have young.”

Chances are my kids will never express everything from the list above.  That’s okay.  I’m not trying to win The Best Mother Award of All Times.  I am however striving to be The Best Mom I Can Be for Tamara and Evan.  And when I have goals in mind, I can work towards those.  I’d rather that what good they remember about me as a mother becomes part of them and they’ll be able to pass it on to the next generation.

 TwiG/’98 – Debbie Hallock (All rights reserved)

I see a new project for me – What Kind of Grandmother Will Your Grandchildren Remember?  

I’d enjoy hearing your own goals as a mom/grandmother and hope that you have a lovely Mother’s Day.

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Saying Goodbye to February

It’s amazing to think that February is almost over.  This month was full and I am happy to say that because of setting goals at the beginning of the month and then giving those goals to God I am pleased with the results.

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1. I persevered and my winner from the Calphalon giveaway in December received their dutch oven. Big thanks to my winner, Kim for her patience. Note – Calphalon felt badly about the delay and sent Kim the entire set of pans instead of just the dutch oven plus 2 waffle makers. Sometimes the wait is worth it.

2. My mom and I took a trip to the Botanical Gardens and then out to lunch and then a little shopping and then off to see the grand baby below. Girls just want to have fun.  I feel blessed to have these moments with my mom – when we are out exploring and catching up.

3. My husband and I were able to help with our grandson when our daughter who is expecting our sweet granddaughter got sick.  

4. Tax prep for 2013 should be done by the end of the month. Whoo Hoo! So glad to have this done.

5. Made homemade play dough for Caden and we had so much fun rolling and cutting.

6. Spent time with my son and his girlfriend.

7. Made a couple of new recipes.  

8. Scheduled quiet time with God.

9. Exercised and ate well (most of the time). Jeff and I did a personal training session together on Saturday morning. Hurt so good 🙂

10. Was asked to speak at Chandler Christian Church MOPS (Moms of Preschoolers) group in April – very excited. Prayers appreciated as I prepare.

So all and all it’s been a good month. I’d love to hear about your February and remember there is still a week left so make a goal or two and see where you land by the end of the month.

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