Gratitude

gratitude

This morning I am sitting outside in my backyard sipping organic Chocolate Roobus tea, with 3 drops of caramel stevia and a splash of almond-coconut milk.  The blue sky is waking up, birds are singing and I can hear my neighbors pool pump humming.  The greens that clothe the plants and trees around the perimeter of our yard are vibrant.  I notice the details.   It is easy in these quiet moments to find gratitude.  These are moments I practice to build into my life for this is where life becomes manageable and I can find perspective.  Truly I don’t know where this blog post is going but I feel a need to write about quiet, not missing the sweet details in life, and about growing a heart of gratitude and kindness.

 A month or so ago I was sitting outside on a deck in 63 degree weather.  Living in Phoenix, AZ, 63 degrees is a gift on an early October day but I wasn’t in Phoenix.   I was in Show Low, AZ., a three hour drive from home.  This is my writing from that day:

 I will do my best to describe the moment.  There are birds chirping, the sound of a distant road with occasional cars, the trees near me are fluttering from an unseen breath.  A wind chime dances and sings reminding me of whispering church bells.  The blue sky with fluffy marshmallow cream clouds peek through the trees.  There is something up here that can be hard to find in the valley – a quiet that invites me to be still, reflect  and enjoy the quiet.

Funny how only a few days before the opportunity came to come up to the mountains, I was reluctant – it seemed too much work to pack, so many things on my to do list and I was engaged in an internal wrestling match.  One of the nice things of being 58 is I have enough past experience to question these struggles to rest and I’ve learned to fight those thoughts.  How easily I can miss out on the gift God is trying to give me….rest, peace, time to slow down from all the chores at home, tasks at work, etc.

I recently finished a book about a king that was imprisioned in a dark cell for almost a year.  He went in prideful and came out seeing the free things we have been given in this world in a new and appreciative way.  Imagine seeing nothing but darkness day after day and then coming out and seeing the sky with clouds in varying colored of white, grays and lavenders, of all shapes that continually move and transform.  It’s better than any movie we could watch.  The greens of the trees, each leaf different, the shadows of birds flying in and out of the branches.  The sounds of quaking aspens that gently sing in the breeze.  Go outside, close your eyes – study the darkness before your eyes.  Then open your eyes as if for the first time – it’s pretty amazing and can easily drive a heart to thankfulness.

This will be one of the last times I sit on this deck and it is with gratitude I say goodbye.  We didn’t do anything to deserve having time here during the past decade.  The property isn’t ours but is owned by a friend of my husband’s, who had graciously extended hospitality to us but recently decided to sell.  This beautiful home has been a retreat to us, providing a quick getaway when we walked through challenging times (financial, health, losing loved ones).  It has been an unexpected act of kindness towards our family.

Some moments mold you into something better than you were.   Sometimes people come into your life that help you take the next step in your journey.  These people are going about their day and have no idea they are going to step into someone else’s lives and make a difference.  

When my daughter, Tamara, was in high school she was challenged with throwing up month after month – we would watch her crawl to the bathroom and most times her body would need an iv to replenish her fluids.  Back and forth we went to the dr but answers were slow in coming. Then one time her doctor was out and we saw someone who was filling in.  For some reason this dr couldn’t let go of what was happening to Tamara.  He called us at home asking for more information.  The next day he asked for her to be brought back into the office and soon we had an appointment for a CAT Scan at 11 a.m. in an area of town I wasn’t familiar with.  I was out of my comfort zone:   I wanted to fix this for my daughter, I wanted to remain calm – I wanted to know this would all be ok – I prayed.  On the outside, I was keeping it together.  But I don’t like not knowing where I’m going and when we finally found the imaging area, I pulled into a parking spot with 5 minutes to spare.  I noticed I parked crooked and backed up to straighten up only to bump into a car that was also backing up.  I got out of the car and noticed the woman was not happy.  What happened next is a memory I have held dear and still clouds my eyes with tears.  I began to explain I was sorry and that my daughter was ill and we had an 11 am appointment for a test.  My rambling sounded incoherent to my own ears.  But I watched a face that had been angry start to melt.  She then opened her arms to me (the mom who is supposed to be brave) and I didn’t hesitate to walk into this stranger’s embrace and cry.  She whispered in my ear “The car doesn’t matter.  It is only a bump to a fender.  Your job is to get to that appointment and take care of your child.  Be brave.  You can do this.”  She released me and I said thank you as I got my daughter out of the car and checked into the appointment.  After the test, we were asked to stay in the waiting room.  Ten minutes later, I was handed a large envelope with the test film and told to get Tamara to Banner where a bed was waiting and surgery was being scheduled for an appendectomy.  This doctor, that woman were a big part of journey.  

 What does God say about kindness?  

Proverbs 3:3 – Do not let kindness and truth leave you.  Bind them around your neck and write them on tablet of your heart.

Acts 14:17 (NIV):  He (God) has shown kindness by giving you rain from heaven and crops in their seasons; he provides you with plenty of food and fills your heart with joy.” 

Romans 11:22 (NIV):  “Consider therefore the kindness and sternest of God:  sternest to those who fell, but kindness to you, provided that you continue in his kindness.”

Galatians 5:22 (NIV):  “But the fruit of the spirit is love, joy, peace, patience,kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control.”

Ephesians 2:7 (NIV):  “..in order that in the coming ages he might show the incomparable riches of his grace, expressed in his kindness to us in Christ Jesus.”

2 Peter 1:7 – 1:3-8 (NIV)”  His divine power has given us everything we need for life and godliness through our knowledge him who called us by his own glory and goodness.  Through these he has given his very great and precious promises, so that through them you may participate in the divine nature and escape the corruption in the world caused by evil desires.  For this very reason, make every effort to add to your faith goodness; and to goodness, knowledge; and to knowledge, self-control; and to self-control, perseverance; and to perseverance, godliness; and to go godliness, brotherly kindness; and to brotherly kindness, love.  For if you possess these qualities in increasing measure, they will keep you from being ineffective and unproductive in your knowledge of our Lord Jesus Christ.”

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Grandma’s Hospital Bag

We are excited because our granddaughter is due any day now.  Since our grandson arrived a few weeks before his due date we thought the same might hold true of his sister.  But this little one is perfectly content safe and snug in mommy which we all know is for the best and that she’ll come when it’s time.

So we have the plan laid out – who will be doing what and when.  My job is to get to the hospital as soon as I get the call.  We all hear about what the expectant mama is packing for the hospital but I decided I needed my own bag so if I was at work and wearing a skirt I’d be prepared.  As I was packing my bag I thought maybe there are others that would be interested in this information as well.  Step 1 – You need a bag…

31 Tote

I chose this tote from Thirty-One.  This company has so many cute and useful items in their product line.  I’m all for Cute but let’s face it the Functionality needs to be there or you’re just throwing money away. Of course I needed something with pink to help mark the occasion.  This bag is so well organized with compartments that are pockets, zippers and even has a place on the side for a water bottle.  It also fits comfortably on the shoulder.  I also bought the key holder – so cute with all those polka dots.  

Grandma Bag

 Step 2 – You need to pack.  This is what is in my bag:

Columbia Hiking Pants – These pants have some stretch in them and absorb sweat.  When you are helping someone with back labor it’s important to be comfy and able to move.

Black short sleeve t-shirt

A lightweight long sleeve jacket – probably won’t need but sometimes hospitals can be cold.

A sports bra

Balega Cushioned Sports Sock – This socks are comfy.  Love – love these.

Comfy Shoes 

Hair Ties and Crystal Nail File – a rough nail is not appreciated by a woman in labor that needs her back massaged and my hair needs to be out of my eyes.

Medicine – I want to take care of myself and have what I might need.  This is no time for a headache, etc.

Washcloth – A soft washcloth is nice to use in an ice bath to cool off mommy’s skin.

Snacks – Raw nuts, Zing Bars and Bottled Water – to keep me nourished

Camera – make sure you have one even if it’s on your phone.

Wallet, Keys, Cell Phone, Charger and Directions to the Hospital.  – will be switched from purse to bag.

I am now ready.

My room

I mentioned to my daughter this weekend that I think the baby will be here soon because I’ve been nesting.  That made her laugh but seriously I was able to create some order with children’s toys in our living room.  I’m still waiting on a few pieces of the storage solution but will try to remember to share sometime in the future.  I also decided to clean closets in two rooms on Sunday.  I questioned my sanity but you know how it is – you start with an idea and then one thing turns into another.  Soon I had two rooms in total disarray.  I was very motivated to keep plugging along since a call for the baby could come at anytime.  But all is well and it feels good to finish a project that has been on the list for years – an official workout/writing/craft and sewing room.  Once I had things organized I discovered several items I could use  to decorate  ( a quilt sampler my mom had given me, the thrift store vase from my aunt’s 80th birthday party and a lamp that had old potpourri in its base (I replaced with some cranberry wooden beads and used a hand painted mason jar that was also used for my aunt’s party which gave the lamp a new look).  I am happy to say I didn’t buy one thing.  I am very thankful to my daughter for not going into labor which she assures me she had no control over and if she had we’d have a baby now.  

Well my instincts were right on – the baby was born shortly after this post was published.  Here is our sweetie pie.. 

Maisie-hospital bag

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